Women will also ＂no＂？ Sexual dysfunction is not a male patent, so we should pay attention to it.
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"After five years of marriage, my husband and I have never shared a room." A special female patient came to the doctor’s office.
In 2017, 26-year-old Ms. Zhang married her husband shortly after they met, and the family has been looking forward to their having a child. However, in the past five years, the most intimate actions between husband and wife are only holding hands and hugging. Every time she was in the same room, Ms. Zhang was extremely scared, pinching her legs, sweating all over, and even retching, and then desperately pushed her husband away.
"I’m not just targeting my husband, I just feel that all men are obscene, so I’m very resistant." Ms. Zhang said to the doctor distressfully, "Of course, I think my sexual orientation is fine, and I don’t know why?"
"In fact, this is a typical phobia of sexual intercourse and belongs to a kind of female sexual dysfunction." The doctor analyzed.
"Women will have sexual dysfunction? Don’t men get this disease? " Ms. Zhang scratched her head and felt a little outrageous.
"Female sexual dysfunction is not uncommon. There are even specialized sex therapists abroad. Our domestic people are more conservative. Without timely intervention, patients will only become more and more depressed."
When it comes to the life of husband and wife, many people are ashamed to talk about it. Sometimes when they encounter difficulties, they always keep it in their hearts. In women, this phenomenon is always ignored.
Sexual phobia, which is essentially a sexual psychological disorder, belongs to a specific phobia, similar to fear of heights and blood.
Fear of sexual intercourse is medically known asvaginismusIn the process of the same room, you will unconsciously contract the muscles of the vagina and pelvic floor, and then you will feel uncomfortable such as pain. Some women will also have physiological reactions such as palpitation, palpitation, nausea and cold sweat all over the body, and then have a strong fear of the same room.Female sexual dysfunction due to fear of sexual intercourse accounts for about 12~14%.
So, why do women have fear of sexual intercourse?
1, mental stress.
Some women lack a correct understanding of sex life,Excessive nervousness, fear of sexual intercourse, fear of pregnancy, etc., leading to great mental stress, and then fear of it.
2. Suffering from diseases.
Women suffer fromCervicitis, vaginitis, local deformity of vaginaAs well as inflammation, may induce vaginal spasm.
3. Improper life of husband and wife
In the same room,Lack of preparation workCauses the female vaginal opening to be dry,Men are too rude or have sex against women’s wishes.It is easy to cause women to feel pain, even disgust and fear of sex life, and finally cause vaginal spasm.
For women, when they find that they have a strong sense of resistance to sexual life, they must seek medical advice in time to find out the causes and carry out targeted treatment and intervention.
In the process of sexual intercourse, women’s pelvic floor muscles contract a lot, which can accelerate the blood flow out of the pelvic area and help women.Improve premenstrual syndrome, including abdominal discomfort.
In addition, sharing a room properly can also bring these benefits:
1. Enhance cardiopulmonary function
In fact, sexual intercourse is also a good exercise, in which all organs, limbs and joint muscles can be moved, which is helpful to improve cardiopulmonary function.
2. Promote sleep
After a harmonious sexual intercourse, the nervous mood and muscles can be relaxed, and drowsiness will follow, which can help people fall asleep quickly.
3. Help eliminate bad emotions
Harmonious sexual intercourse can release some hormones with calming effect, which can help to eliminate fear and vent bad emotions, and is beneficial to mental health.
4. Delaying the degeneration of reproductive organs
Proper sexual intercourse is also helpful to delay the atrophy and degeneration of reproductive organs, help maintain pelvic floor function and reduce the risk of reproductive tract diseases in the elderly.
Good sexual intercourse can bring many benefits to physical and mental health, but the premise is "good". Many women’s sexual experience is not good, and naturally they can’t get benefits.
1. Strengthen sex education
Education in China has always been in the stage of talking about sexual shame. Most women’s sexual knowledge can only come from their parents and peers, and parents often educate their children in a "threatening" way, which is easy to form a distorted situation and make women feel afraid of sex life.
2. Professional treatment
Clinically, it is generally adopted for women who have fear of sexual intercourse.Hypnotic cognitive behavioral therapyLet women re-establish their cognition of sex, so that women can better alleviate their fears and change their original cognition. If sexual behavior is still unacceptable after treatment, vaginal dilation will be performed according to the patient’s wishes.
3. Investigate diseases
Some women have this disease because of congenital vaginal diseases, so they should go to the hospital in time to investigate the causes and then carry out targeted treatment.
4. Adjust your sexual life style
Full caress must be carried out before sexual intercourse, so that women can take the next step when they are excited, which is helpful to improve vaginal spasm.
Sex is an instinctive physiological reaction that everyone has. You don’t have to feel ashamed. When you find that you have some abnormal performance, you should bravely seek medical treatment.
References:
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